Like the ancients, we moderns have our myths and our gods. Modern Myth #2 is the “casual” sex myth. It says: Random sex with various partners is a meaningless recreational activity with no significant consequences and should be encouraged and approved of by society.
But what is “casual” about the act that has the power to create a human being? Bringing another person into the world or killing that person before she is born are both profound acts — anything but “casual”!
And what is “casual” about playing Russian roulette with your life and with your health? People today are dying from sexually transmitted disease. Is that “casual”?
And what is ”casual” about one of the most intimate and intense human experiences. What is “casual” about an experience that is designed to create a deep emotional bond with another human being?
And what is “casual” about using another person for your pleasure with no commitment to or regard for him or her as a human being? How can we “casually” turn a human into a toy? And what is “casual” about hurting others and hurting society?
“Casual” sex results in abandoned children who often suffer for the rest of their lives. It often leaves children in poverty for the government to help raise. It breaks the heart of the one betrayed. It causes public health problems and increases health care costs. It creates guilt that often leads to other self-destructive behaviors like alcohol addiction and drug use. Is any of that “casual”?
Finally, “casual” sex leads to bondage. It is a surrender to cravings and desires that very quickly becomes habitual — a form of slavery. Is anything ”casual” about being a slave to compulsions?
So since random sex is not at all “casual,” why do we as a society call it that? Because we are blindly following a myth that is harped and promoted though out our society: from bill boards to sickovision (television); from parental example to college professors; from music to movies; from the White House to the Senate; from health departments to health clubs; from medical doctors to scientists; from magazines to newspapers; from “shackin’ up” to “coming out of the closet.”
The “casual” sex myth is so pervasive in our culture, that some people wonder if anybody doesn’t worship at the “casual” sex altar nowadays. But yes, there are still people who havn’t bought into the cheapo sex myth! And even if you have been captured by this anything but ”casual” myth, you can get set free!