Self-esteem is important. If you don’t like yourself (who you know best) you probablly won’t be able to really like anybody else. However, a poor self-image (also known as an inferiority complex) can be overcome. You can actually like yourself. Here are 7 practical steps that will really work if you will take the time and make the effort to apply them in your life.
1) Don’t compare yourself to others. As humans we tend to compare our weaknesses to someone else’s strengths, and such comparisons always injure our self-esteem. It is best not to compare yourself to others at all. You are special and unique and you don’t need to measure yourself by any other person.
Here is an example of how comparing yourself to others works — a Jamie Lee Curtis quote: “For years I stopped reading beauty magazines because I couldn’t look at one without wanting to blow my brains out. How can those women look so good?”
2) Obey your conscience. Refuse to violate your own moral values. When you disobey your conscience and act against your sense of right and wrong, you load yourself down with guilt and shame, and damage your self-respect.
3) Forgive yourself. Let go of your past failures and regrets. Ask others to forgive you. Make amends where possible. Ask God to forgive you. Then leave your wrong doings in the past and move on to a better future.
4) Separate personal worth from performance. You are not your behavior. Your value comes from your incredible worth as a human being, not a human doing. You are a special, unique, and incredible human being regardless of your performance in life.
5) Accept compliments from other people. When someone pays you a compliment, don’t reject it by making an excuse like: “Well, it really wasn’t that good.” Instead, receive compliments by simply saying: “Thank you.”
6) Give yourself compliments. Notice what you do right and acknowledge it. You don’t need to brag to others. Just compliment yourself in your own mind: “Wow. I did a good job today.”
7) Use the affirmation: “I like myself.” Repeat those words over and over in your mind through out the day and when you are in bed at night. I’ve been repeating, “I like myself,” silently to myself for many years. And you know what? At some point I began to really like myself.